A nice little detail: all thirteen children also survived this party. Not even a little collateral damage. I would have accepted a bloody nose or a scraped knee as acceptable injuries, but not even that. The best they came up with were a lost plaster and a bruise-to-be.
After this first party, I just have the family party to go on Sunday, but Babes will be around for that, and we're doing a leisurely barbecue in the garden. That should be just fine. In fact, it will be a lot of fun if we get the paddling pool out and have a pretty cake. And then there's the actual birth-day of course, but all we need then is some home-made decorations and a card, and he gets to pick his own dinner. After which the school holidays start and I will get a rest. Oh yeah. (Sarcasm alert.)
Back to today's party - what I noticed was how incredibly accustomed these children are to everything being done for them. If it didn't make me sound like such an old crone, I'd say "children nowadays don't know the value of money" and "these kids today are spoilt rotten." Ah what the hell - children nowadays really don't know the value of money and they are completely spoilt rotten. I have grey hair and a pointy nose - I can be a crone.
So many of the children came to tell me they were "hungry" after the pancakes, and a lot were "thirsty" but not willing to drink the left-over lemonade. My birthday boy joined in nicely - one friend turned up with his granny but no present, and Jack was very indignant: "What do you mean, no present?" I had a quiet word, but my point was rather spoiled by the mother turning up later with two large presents (both of her children were invited).
I need a rest just now. That seems to be all I do in the evenings now - rest. Last night, I even had to admit defeat and not blog on a weekday. It felt awful, but it had to be done. I went to sleep at eight o'clock with the children and didn't reemerge until seven this morning. (I tossed and turned from one to six, but hey I was resting - sort of.)
I'm going to have to accept that this is going to happen more often, however much I hate it. I have started to carry a notebook in my bag, though - thus making the most of inspiration when it strikes. My long-term memory being reduced to about a five minute interval just now, that is no luxury. I just got myself a new diary (the last one ran out in January - I figured it was time) and on next Thursday's slot, it just says "Doing something, but WHAT?" If I'm doing something with you, please do tell me.
Right - I'm going to watch some mindless TV now, and then I'm going to complain to Babes for a while because we're out of lovely icecream (I forgot to buy more). Then more rest. Future posts I am contemplating:
Lost without wet wipesand
The puddle in the kitchenCan you tell we're still potty training?
Boy o boy do I hate birthday parties. I hate throwing them and I hate attending them. They give me anxiety attacks.
ReplyDeleteI vote for TV and ice cream. You deserve it
You are braver than I would be. I would have just said something like "How about we go to Disney World for your 8th birthday?!" and hope they forget about it in the meantime.
ReplyDeleteYes - gawd yes - I've had (wait til I count...)FIFTEEN birthday parties and 6 Halloween and on the whole the kids were wonderful (all this stopped around 7 years ago). My little 4yo has a July birthday (YAY! no parties everyone is on holiday!)but I am very aware that at the parties he is invited to the children are forever banging on about party bags or the cake not being "right" and I want a chocolate one, I want a pink one, this isn't very big is it? Where's the rest? Is that all? Isn't there MORE?!!
ReplyDelete@michelle - I know. I keep thinking I should do a "proper" one at home, but I just chicken out. Maybe one day when I have no tiny children.
ReplyDelete@Megan - I don't think that would work somehow. Birthday parties are very entrenched in this part of the world.
@MrsW - July kids get June or September parties around here. But we have no party bags! Well, they are being given out by some parents now, influenced by the Anglosaxons, but so far they're few and far between. MORE does seem to be a prominent feature over here, too. And then there's some really sweet and polite kids, too. I'm training mine still...
I have given over a hundred birthday parties. Think of THAT! And actually, I pretty much hated every one of them. Well, not by the time they were mostly grown-up parties. But still.
ReplyDeleteJust got through the 5th birthday party here. It was about the longest 2 hours of my life. Actually not true, I hid with my bad mother friend and we let the Dads get on with maintaining peace. Worked well, right up to the point I got found.
ReplyDeleteBTW - potty training? 7 1/2 months? Brave lady you!
I'm gong to stick my neck out - I love their birthday parties - probably 'cos I waited so long to have my kids that I treat each party as a wonder. That's not to say I don't dislike some of the challenging kids who have been guests over the years.....
ReplyDeletehm, more reasons I don't have children. I was thinking as you were telling this tale, she's going to have to do all this THREE times, every single year, forever...
ReplyDeleteSorry.
I would've been the same way about the present. What? No present????
I say that all the time to myself.
I'd like to be presented with presents every day, or every other.
I'm glad you have your notebook and your Babes and some tv time, hardworking woman.
Happy Bday to yr little one.
I hate birthday parties too. These Catalan ones don't even have wine to numb the pain/boredom!
ReplyDelete@Ms. Moon - Over a hundred. Ouch. I'm sure I'll end up with that many in the end so I'd better get good at them.
ReplyDelete@PantsWithNames - See - that's clever. I think I will use the magic husband for the family party as well.
Very funny - 7 1/2 months. He's happily peeing away in my uterus. 2 1/2 years seems reasonable enough.
@diney - You are weird. But that's fine. I'm planning on enjoying them more once I get less fat.
@Bethany - Three times? If only. Class parties and family dos are separate, so that makes six. And then we have the in-laws who can't always make it over in time, so sometimes extra parties are added for them.
I want presents every day, too.
@Very Bored in Catalunya - Wine! What a good idea. No, there was no wine at this one either. Is that the norm at English afternoon play parties? More hedonistic than I would have expected.
I hate birthday parties. Girl Spawn has one coming up in a few weeks and I'm dreading it. And it's not even at my house!
ReplyDeleteWe've had the "What, no present?" thing happen a couple times as well. I almost cancelled Christmas one year because I got "Is that it?" out of one of them.
Hope you're taking it easy!
I've not had the pleasure(or not)to do a birthday party yet, but my eldest is 4 next birthday and I really feel i should make an effort to have her friends involved this year. I remember when parties were at friends houses and they were brilliant. I can't help but feel anything I organised at home would be boring and deemed as 'cheap' these days. So I'm putting if off for aslong as possible!
ReplyDeleteI also find myself writing posts in a notebook first as inspiration never comes when I'm sat on the computer(uninspiring pieces of machinery aren't they?).
Never time for anything as a parent, like your much needed new diary I've just got myself a new e-mail with my married name, I've been married a year next month so it was about flipping time I did that one!
I find birthday parties really trying. BOth my kids and other people's. And now I find I am due to attend one on the morning of the next England football game! I'd make my excuses and cry off it it weren't for the fact I've already bought a present and told Littleboy 2 we're going......
ReplyDeleteWe have a midweek b'day party next week and it's smartly been arranged to include both parents and child. So the techie or I have to take 4 hours out of our work day to attend.
ReplyDeleteGet yourself a day at the spa to recover. I know, easier said than done. Just a suggestion.